A Reddit user who was upset that his spouse was refusing to learn to cook or even hug him basic food preparation skills A family doctor, as well as other users of the forum, said it was not wrong to raise the issue.
“AITA disagrees with my wife’s view that she never learned to cook?” a Reddit user named “Significant_Tree3606” asked this week in a post on the “Am I an A-hole” (AITA) page.
In the post the man told about a struggling marriage.
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“She believes she doesn’t need to help with cooking prepare food Or even help with cleaning, including the dishes,” the poster said, even if the spouse is a “very picky eater.”
This, the author said, is due in part to the spouses’ upbringing, which included “doing no work” and having a maid in the house during childhood.
One Reddit user was frustrated when his spouse (not pictured) “thrown a tantrum” when asked to learn basic cooking skills. (iStock)
“He has never learned to cook And can’t boil water,” the Reddit poster wrote.
The author also said, “Despite me explaining it to her, she loses patience.”
“She waits for about two minutes before either walking away or throwing a tantrum that she doesn’t want to learn, and (that) I should be the only (one) in this house who has to know.” how to cook” the poster said.
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This came to a head the other night, the author said, when – after a long week at work – the non-cooking wife complained that the couple had not spent enough time together that week.
“She either leaves about two minutes early or throws a tantrum saying she doesn’t want to learn.”
Significant_Tree3606 said, “I offered to let her cook with me so she could learn while spending time together.” “I thought it would be cute create a recipe together Which we had never eaten before.”
The author said, it did not go well.
“He had a stroke,” she said. Significant_tree3606 asked the spouse to clean the grill rack and remove spices, she said, after which this behavior continued throughout the evening.
Reddit user asked wife (not pictured) to help him cook dinner, and the woman “threw a fit” in response. (iStock)
“Eventually he stopped yelling and complaining and put some stuff away. I gave him a plate of food to enjoy first because I still had some cleanup to do,” the Reddit user said.
In addition to cooking, the author described herself as “the person who takes care of all the bills and yard work along with the ‘mahayaka’ duties,” but added that the wife “cleans the utensils and folds the clothes.” Gives.”
Author friends distanced themselves With that said, they will not tolerate a partner who demands separate meals and refuses to help in any meaningful way.
“It’s important for them to have honest conversations.”
“Do I want him to learn to cook and/or at least help with kitchen preparation?” he asked others.
One therapist told Fox News Digital that it’s not wrong to want a spouse to help in the kitchen, but “it’s surprising that (the couple) didn’t address this issue before getting married.”
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“That said, since they’re in this situation now, it’s important for them to have honest conversations about domestic responsibilities And how can they divide the work in a way that both feels comfortable and avoids resentment,” Rachel Goldberg, LMFT, founder of Rachel Goldberg Therapy in Los Angeles, told Fox News Digital via email.
If the opposing spouse continues to refuse to learn to cook, “they can come up with an alternative where she takes on other responsibilities to balance things out,” Goldberg said.
A therapist told Fox News Digital that the couple in question (not pictured) should have “honest conversations about household responsibilities” to avoid resentment and issues in the future. (iStock)
He also said that the Reddit author needs to accept that his spouse “obviously doesn’t want to cook Or learn how, and trying to change him won’t be beneficial,” she said. “Instead, they should focus on finding a compromise that works for both of them.”
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Additionally, the author might want to investigate why her husband has “such a strong reaction to cooking.”
“If she’s throwing tantrums, there may be a deeper issue than never learning to cook or having a maid while growing up,” Goldberg said.
“There may be deeper issues than never learning to cook or having a maid growing up.”
“Understanding what drives her dislike may provide insight into how she can contribute differently.”
Reddit users largely agreed with the doctor’s opinion on the matter.
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Most of the more than 2,200 reactions to the domestic drama said the Reddit user wasn’t wrong that she wanted her spouse to learn to cook.
Reddit users were very supportive of the poster on the cooking issue. (iStock)
“You can’t make your wife grow up and treat you like an adult, but you can stop coddling her because she throws tantrums,” said one Reddit user in the top reply to the post.
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The same person said, “She needs to learn some basic life skills. What used to be cute and quirky in the relationship gets old fast.”
Another Redditor said, “She’s literally treating you like a maid.”
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The same commenter added, “You do all the work while she’s expected to sit and watch TV, and she throws tantrums when asked to lift a finger.”
The man further said, you are not his wife – you are his grandmother.
Fox News Digital reached out to the original Reddit poster for any updates.
