Almost everyone in this world is attached to something or the other – to a particular person or thing, to family, friends, pets, work, a specific lifestyle, to an attitude, to an idea, etc.
This attachment often acts as the driving force in life. For this attachment, one fights all odds and achieves even the impossible. For example, when one loves his work so much, he is willing to put in any kind of hard work, even if it means compromising our health or social life. Similarly, some people do a lot and endure a lot of personal suffering just to see their loved one happy. Such is the nature of attachment!
On the other hand, this attachment also makes the person feel burdened. This is because attachment, by its very nature, is binding rather than liberating. In addition, there are times when the person feels some kind of burden. Hatred For the person they are so attached to. One may not like this negative feeling, but one can see that it cannot be avoided either. And when we fail to understand the real reason behind it, questions like ‘Why is this happening? How could I hurt someone I love so much?’ keep haunting us constantly. Hatred seems to be a greater burden than attachment, because when it rises, it burns oneself as well as one’s loved ones.
In such a situation we wonder if our attachment is really as healthy as we think. And we try to find a way in which we can let go of the burden and hatred that comes from attachment and maintain love for the one we are attached to. Is there such a way? And why do I get so attached only to certain people or things; where does our attachment and hatred come from; what is the secret behind attachment and hatred?
What is the secret behind attachment? And hatred?
Psychologists and psychiatrists have spent years trying to answer these questions. They have proposed many possible explanations and created theories, but we have yet to arrive at an indisputable, scientific answer. Read more here Spiritual Science So let us find the answer in the spiritual realm now!
Why do we feel strong attachment to certain people or things?
Holiness Dada BhagwanDr. BR Ambedkar, founder of Akram Vignan, explains this science through a simple example.
When you move a magnet around a pin, what will happen? The pin will move with it, won’t it? And if we bring the magnet close to the pin, the pin will immediately stick to it. Now, because of the presence of the electric body in the physical body, our body also has a magnetic property. So when it encounters compatible atoms, the electricity within gives rise to the magnetic property of the body, and thus there is attraction. While with others, the atoms are not compatible; and so there is no such attraction; like the pin is attracted to the magnet, but not to the piece of wood. This attraction is known as attachment.
Even if you tell your body ‘don’t go there’, it will get up and go. This is because the atoms inside the body are being attracted. Wherever there are compatible atoms, the body automatically gets drawn there. And what gives rise to compatible atoms? It is our opinions that we have formed in the past life. Based on circumstantial evidence, our experiences in past lives lead us to form strong positive or negative opinions about certain people, things, behaviours, situations, etc. These opinions carry forward as seeds sown from the past life into the present life, where they germinate as attachment (and aversion) to those people, things, behaviours, situations, etc.
Furthermore, attachment gives rise to expectations. ExpectationsFor some reason, when our loved ones fail to fulfill our wishes, negativity starts building up which, if not corrected, can lead to hatred towards that person. We eventually start finding fault with that person.
People seem good because of our love and we find faults in them because of our hatred. But, in reality, everyone is faultless; absolutely faultless! To see someone as faulty is an illusion. If we are seeing faults in someone, how can we say that we love him?
Bhagavan says, “When we see the world as faultless, then only pure love he will get up.”
When we become the embodiment of pure love, the whole world experiences unity with us. This happens when we understand the world exactly as it is, and truly experience it from that perspective. This is why everyone experiences unity with the Gnani.
The Gyani is the kind one who has no illusions and who can break our illusions with his divine spiritual powers!!! He makes us realize that our real self is not a physical body that gets attracted or attached to someone; the real self is the pure soul. We are all actually pure souls. What is the soul? Reading
As long as we consider others as different from ourselves, we feel a sense of ‘mine’ and ‘yours’. As long as these differences with another person exist, we will continue to have attachment to those whom we consider our own. We consider those we are attached to as our own and we have differences with those whom we hate.
Gyani ji advises to do Pratikraman i.e. repent with a true heart for all your mistakes.
Having understood the secret of attachment and hatred, the Gnani teaches us how we can wash away our thoughts of past life, our expectations of this life, our feelings of hatred and the feeling of discrimination that prevails in our dealings with people by doing Pratikraman. For this, we remember our faults and ask for forgiveness for each of them before God, “O God. I have made this mistake, for which I am sorry. Please forgive me and give me strength so that I never repeat this mistake again.” When we do such Pratikraman sincerely, it shows that we are no longer in favor of these faults. Do you know how this Pratikraman works? Reading
Are our attachments really as healthy as we think?
The attachment due to which all other attachments of the world disappear is called the supreme attachment by God. This attachment is the only attachment. Healthy Attachment Because it is the root cause of ultimate liberation. The attachment we have towards a compassionate (enlightened) being is the ultimate attachment that breaks all worldly attachments. This attachment does not bind us, because it has no contamination of any worldly sentiments.
When we meditate on such a compassionate One, the qualities of His enlightened soul manifest within us!!! In this meditation, there is no desire for any worldly thing, only desire for self-bliss. The nature of the Self (Self) is love and with such love one forgets all the problems of the world. Once bound by this love, nothing can bind us. And that is the real beauty of it!!!
Author: Dada Bhagwan
This attachment often acts as the driving force in life. For this attachment, one fights all odds and achieves even the impossible. For example, when one loves his work so much, he is willing to put in any kind of hard work, even if it means compromising our health or social life. Similarly, some people do a lot and endure a lot of personal suffering just to see their loved one happy. Such is the nature of attachment!
On the other hand, this attachment also makes the person feel burdened. This is because attachment, by its very nature, is binding rather than liberating. In addition, there are times when the person feels some kind of burden. Hatred For the person they are so attached to. One may not like this negative feeling, but one can see that it cannot be avoided either. And when we fail to understand the real reason behind it, questions like ‘Why is this happening? How could I hurt someone I love so much?’ keep haunting us constantly. Hatred seems to be a greater burden than attachment, because when it rises, it burns oneself as well as one’s loved ones.
In such a situation we wonder if our attachment is really as healthy as we think. And we try to find a way in which we can let go of the burden and hatred that comes from attachment and maintain love for the one we are attached to. Is there such a way? And why do I get so attached only to certain people or things; where does our attachment and hatred come from; what is the secret behind attachment and hatred?
What is the secret behind attachment? And hatred?
Psychologists and psychiatrists have spent years trying to answer these questions. They have proposed many possible explanations and created theories, but we have yet to arrive at an indisputable, scientific answer. Read more here Spiritual Science So let us find the answer in the spiritual realm now!
Why do we feel strong attachment to certain people or things?
Holiness Dada BhagwanDr. BR Ambedkar, founder of Akram Vignan, explains this science through a simple example.
When you move a magnet around a pin, what will happen? The pin will move with it, won’t it? And if we bring the magnet close to the pin, the pin will immediately stick to it. Now, because of the presence of the electric body in the physical body, our body also has a magnetic property. So when it encounters compatible atoms, the electricity within gives rise to the magnetic property of the body, and thus there is attraction. While with others, the atoms are not compatible; and so there is no such attraction; like the pin is attracted to the magnet, but not to the piece of wood. This attraction is known as attachment.
Even if you tell your body ‘don’t go there’, it will get up and go. This is because the atoms inside the body are being attracted. Wherever there are compatible atoms, the body automatically gets drawn there. And what gives rise to compatible atoms? It is our opinions that we have formed in the past life. Based on circumstantial evidence, our experiences in past lives lead us to form strong positive or negative opinions about certain people, things, behaviours, situations, etc. These opinions carry forward as seeds sown from the past life into the present life, where they germinate as attachment (and aversion) to those people, things, behaviours, situations, etc.
Furthermore, attachment gives rise to expectations. ExpectationsFor some reason, when our loved ones fail to fulfill our wishes, negativity starts building up which, if not corrected, can lead to hatred towards that person. We eventually start finding fault with that person.
People seem good because of our love and we find faults in them because of our hatred. But, in reality, everyone is faultless; absolutely faultless! To see someone as faulty is an illusion. If we are seeing faults in someone, how can we say that we love him?
Bhagavan says, “When we see the world as faultless, then only pure love he will get up.”
When we become the embodiment of pure love, the whole world experiences unity with us. This happens when we understand the world exactly as it is, and truly experience it from that perspective. This is why everyone experiences unity with the Gnani.
The Gyani is the kind one who has no illusions and who can break our illusions with his divine spiritual powers!!! He makes us realize that our real self is not a physical body that gets attracted or attached to someone; the real self is the pure soul. We are all actually pure souls. What is the soul? Reading
As long as we consider others as different from ourselves, we feel a sense of ‘mine’ and ‘yours’. As long as these differences with another person exist, we will continue to have attachment to those whom we consider our own. We consider those we are attached to as our own and we have differences with those whom we hate.
Gyani ji advises to do Pratikraman i.e. repent with a true heart for all your mistakes.
Having understood the secret of attachment and hatred, the Gnani teaches us how we can wash away our thoughts of past life, our expectations of this life, our feelings of hatred and the feeling of discrimination that prevails in our dealings with people by doing Pratikraman. For this, we remember our faults and ask for forgiveness for each of them before God, “O God. I have made this mistake, for which I am sorry. Please forgive me and give me strength so that I never repeat this mistake again.” When we do such Pratikraman sincerely, it shows that we are no longer in favor of these faults. Do you know how this Pratikraman works? Reading
Are our attachments really as healthy as we think?
The attachment due to which all other attachments of the world disappear is called the supreme attachment by God. This attachment is the only attachment. Healthy Attachment Because it is the root cause of ultimate liberation. The attachment we have towards a compassionate (enlightened) being is the ultimate attachment that breaks all worldly attachments. This attachment does not bind us, because it has no contamination of any worldly sentiments.
When we meditate on such a compassionate One, the qualities of His enlightened soul manifest within us!!! In this meditation, there is no desire for any worldly thing, only desire for self-bliss. The nature of the Self (Self) is love and with such love one forgets all the problems of the world. Once bound by this love, nothing can bind us. And that is the real beauty of it!!!
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 4, Verse 18: Inaction in action and action in inaction
